It's weird how it works in the world, but if you have some absolute wish that occupies all your heart (usually not without a reason), you'll never get it. If you just need some emotions from having friends or a girlfriend, you're not getting them, because that way emotions become more important, and people start thinking they are friends with you not "just because", for the sake of it (how it's supposed to happen naturally, there's no reason for friendship, it is just there, or it is not), but to satisfy some of your personal hidden needs. I'm not saying you must stop having those needs, I'm just saying how people take them.
Why is it so? Because it becomes a weakness, and being friends to satisfy someone's weakness is what people don't want/like to do, because it looks to them they're giving much but getting nothing meaningful. It requires dealing with one's hard aspects together.
How do you change people's minds? It's like with helping in some other complicated spheres - you should make your weakness your target and start spending efforts on fighting it. Because after all, it gives nothing you you either, it just takes away. And after some time, when you have some success in fighting the thing that's way more important for you than in-game lag or sloppiness, you will start feeling more filled, less empty, ideally, you must feel like you are your best friend. It is some special social strength that people are attracted to! People start getting interested in having contact with you, just because they don't know how it all works and they (frankly) are ready to get part of your strength or happiness even if they have nothing to give you back.
Only then you get a chance of meeting a person who also has the same approach in life, and doesn't have problems with dealing with your weaknesses, but since you already started fighting them, doing that together will be more productive.
How does one fight these weaknesses? I dunno, when you have such a goal, you just use absolutely every aspect of your life to seek its roots in yourself and destroy them.
Now, why should you go through all of this? Everyone should, people just have varied timing in these things, some start having these problems earlier, some start having them later. If you have them early, you have a chance to become an expert in that stuff when other people only start having such weaknesses.
On the other hand, there are people that are okay with being parasites, which means they will use your weaknesses to kill you for their own fun. Lies is the best detector. Whoever lies to you, has no respect for you, and should be got rid of asap.
Warning: When making decisions, I try to collect as much data as possible before actually deciding. I try to abstract away and see the principles behind real world events and people's opinions. I try to generalize them and turn into something clear and reusable. I hate depending on unpredictable and having to make lottery guesses. Any problem can be solved by systems thinking and acting.
