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Hi Xkeeper do you want to be my small font buddy? I felt it was more appropriate to ask here than in a PM, most people won't read this anyway.
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Tub wrote:
Dear Fabian, on the off-chance that you actually care, my problem has been sorted out. There was a good opportunity to get back to that topic yesterday (wasn't planned, just lucky) and it turned out she hadn't even taken our response seriously, she just felt a little insulted because that was obviously no polite reply to the question. I apologized, set the record straight, we've talked for about 5 hours, and all was well. thanks again for your point of view on the issue, it did help.
Sure I cared, good to hear things are alright now. I hope you used those 5 hours to talk about other things than how you don't want to have sex with her though :)
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Gorling wrote:
if the technological advances of our time has decreased the need to explain natural phenomena, does that mean that there is less need for religion today? if that is true, do you think _science_ will in some day change the way we see God today?
Yes on all counts and I think it's already happening, in some places more than others. There are other very important (perhaps even more important) reasons why religion is getting increasingly obsolete too, but they're beyond the scope of this question. In a century or two, I think science will be able to explain stuff like how the universe was created exactly, and we'll be able to conclude there's no need for a supernatural force behind it. At first, religious people will incorporate it into their faith (much like evolution has been in the last 50 years), but over time, as fewer and fewer compelling reasons to assume the need for divine intervention exist, fewer and fewer parents will raise their children in a religious environment. How fast this process will be is anyone's guess (in a thread about this very subject a year or two ago I guessed only a few more generations, and I don't think it's an unreasonable estimate), but it's very tricky to deny it hasn't already started, if you compare how many people were religious say 300 years ago and how many are today.
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Gorling wrote:
Looking back at human development, why do you think that there has been so much development in technology but so little development in terms of the human psyche? Let me elaborate. The number of groundbreaking technological innovations of the last two centuries vastly outnumber those of the rest of the millenium. We have sent men to space, found cures for various diseases and even produced digital watches - things that were thought impossible not too long ago. However, I feel that the development of the human psyche has not been as... rapid. Why so few? If you think of it, there hasn't been that many new ideas about God or the ego or our place in the word since Aristotele. No new perspectives on the world we live in. Is it a mere result of evolution - that the traits of "the philosophical mind" has never been rewarded and therefore diminished in expression, or is it just a matter of lazyness?
First, nice hitchhiker reference! From a purely developmental/evolutionary standpoint (I'll cover philosophy later), there's been plenty of progress, but not very recently. This isn't surprising, since the process of evolution is slow as hell. This is mostly physical rather than psychological of course, like developing the ability to speak and abstract thinking, that kind of stuff. Without this type of development though, the technological revolution you speak of wouldn't have happened, since our mind wouldn't be capable of it. Anyway, since this, by definition, is such a slow thing, we can't really notice it and therefore not appreciate it. The thing about philosophy though, is that most people don't care about it nowadays. This wasn't true say 2000 or 10000 years ago, because we knew nothing about science at that point. We needed explanations to stuff and we didn't have the means to find out. This is (partly) why religion had such an enormous impact back then, and continued to all the way up until the last 2 centuries maybe. Religion created answers for things we couldn't understand, and now with the advances in technology and knowledge there are fewer things we can't explain through science. This all ties in nicely with philosophy in general because as the number of tricky questions go down (in a general sense), the need to spend time thinking about those tricky questions go down too, and it's especially true for the everyday person like you or me. We don't have to come up with any new worldviews because we can explain it all pretty nicely with the scientific one.
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JXQ wrote:
Dear FabAttack, What's the best gift you've ever received? What's the best gift you've ever given? Chamillitary mayne, JXQ
I've never been into gifts. I try to avoid them, mostly because it's too much work and effort. I hate getting gifts, I hate how you have to feel happy about them and show your appreciation because the person who got it for you put in all this thought (and money) in something I probably don't need or will use. It makes me feel extremely bad and guilty and if I could somehow avoid ever getting a gift again I'd jump at it in a second. That said I got some great gifts when I was younger. My first cellphone when I turned 15 and my first mp3 player when I turned 16 were both great and have obviously had a great effect on my everyday life (I spent 2 hours on a bus every day in high school so that mp3 player was quite neat). The only significant gift I can recall giving was when I was 8 and my mom always talked about quitting smoking. I gave her nicotine gums and a bicycle helmet because she always said we had to wear helmets when out with our bikes, yet she never wore one. Looking back on it now I think it's kinda sweet, but she never used either gift and it hurt a little. Nowadays birthday/christmas is not a big deal, I mostly get some underwear from mom and maybe a book or some sheet music as well as maybe a joke gift or something. I'd still prefer nothing but overall it's not too bad. I'll know in a few days (birthday coming up) :)
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Yeah I'm with Upthorn on this one. If Bisqwit starts a thread inviting theological discussion, and even says he doesn't mind strongly worded questions (I can't recall the exact wording but it's in there somewhere before xebra's first post), I think this is to be expected and I think it's not very reasonable to ban xebra for it. Also like Upthorn said if it didn't hurt you Bisqwit then all that's left is xebra being rude and being rude has never been a bannable offense here. It's a pretty strong overreaction imo, and though it's not surprising (it's happened before a few times) I still think it's kinda wrong.
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By "actually like" I meant interested in more than a friendship. It sounds like you have things under control though, all things considered. A very general thing which will apply to most people, not just you, is it's likely better in the long run to be as forward as possible when it comes to chicks you're interested. Most of the time there's not much sense in trying to preserve a friendship after you've been shot down when asking her out or whatever. That's a whole 'nother post though, I just thought of it when I read this: "..and I don't want to annoy her to the point that it'll ruin a friendship."
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Tub wrote:
Dear Fabian, thanks for the advice, your thoughts were helpful. One particular phrasing bothers me though, so here's another question.
Fabian wrote:
She's used to it and as long as she hears an indication she's not the only target of your sexual fantasies, it'll blow over.
She's not the target of my sexual fantasies, I have a strict no-nasty-thoughts-about-friends-policy. That's not always easy to follow (especially in summer), but I found that not allowing nasty thoughts at all helps avoiding those thoughts when she's around, and thus allows me to act more naturally and to resist the urge to stare at her boobies. Are you less inhibited about fantasizing than me? How do you deal with the problem of acting mating-ready around girls? Do you simply not care, do you use other tactics, or is that just not a problem for you?
Ah, staring at boobies, one of life's great pleasures. I have very few (2) male friends, almost all of my friends in life so far have been female. I stare at them way, way too much, I just hope they don't notice too often (though how couldn't they?) or I'd feel really bad about it. If they do notice, they've always been nice enough to not ask me to stop. Anyway, that's ambitious of you to have that policy. To be honest I think it's taking the idea a little bit too far, but if you think it works for you then good for you. Even though you have this policy, your friend doesn't know it, and after your talk the other night she thinks you do have nasty thoughts about her. That's not really a big deal though, as covered in my previous response. So to answer your questions, it definitely sounds I'm less inhibited about fantasizing. That's not necessarily a good thing though, we could probably meet somewhere in the middle and be better off for it. I don't really see it as a problem I guess, my thoughts are my own and it's not like I'm creepily hitting on my friends. I probably might if I had a shot though, or if I was sufficiently drunk around them. Yeah I'm a sleezebag. I'm not really sure what you meant exactly by acting mating-ready around chicks and all that. If these answers weren't good, just clarify and I'll give it another shot. Also to all my friends who stumbled upon this by googling me (you weirdos), I'm not actually quite this bad so please don't stop talking to me entirely, thanks. Also something I just thought of. These lasts couple of posts of yours tell me you're probably not aggressive enough around girls. I mean girls you actually like, not your friends. Do you agree?
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alden wrote:
Dear Fabian, Simon or Garfunkel? John or Paul or George or Ringo? Rocket Man or Lion King? Speedrun or Superplay? Do you miss the attention? I'm sorry I don't have a juicy relationship problem for you. Have you considered becoming a syndicated columnist? Seriously. Your biggest fan, Alden
Garfunkel. Simon wrote the songs and was generally the force behind the music etc so it's a tough choice. Garfunkel has too awesome a voice to ignore though. I mean listen to Bridge Over Troubled Water, sweet mother of god. Paul. Most of my favorite Beatles songs are by him. Also he's been my favorite since I discovered them at age 7-8. Rocket Man by a mile, though it's nowhere near my favorite Elton songs. The thing is, with him, he was only really good in the 70s and early 80s. Somewhere in the mid 80s he had some throat surgery which kinda killed his voice so he doesn't sing nearly as well as he used to. His voice nowadays is pretty deep with nowhere near the range he used to have. Early Elton John stuff is fantastic though, easily the best live performer I've ever heard. Incidentally, Simon & Garfunkel might be second on that list. I dunno. I like speed but I also like small sacrifices to improve entertainment. In general I guess speedrun, but I'm somewhere in between. Problem with superplay is it's pretty likely the author of a movie will make shitty entertainment choices which I won't think are worth it. Leaving fewer things up to personal opinion is probably a good idea in general. You mean the attention I got the first couple of days of this thread? No I don't miss it. It was kinda neat I guess but I think answering a question or two a day instead of like 50 works pretty well too. I haven't really considered becoming a columnist, no. I don't really think I could land a job like that, much less keep it. I guess it might be pretty cool now that you mention it, but I'm not convinced it would be very popular. could be a sweet career to end up in though :) Edit: Also thanks for being a fan. It's nice to have one!
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Tub wrote:
Dear Fabian, we were out with friends yesterday, when somehow in the middle of a non-serious conversation that involved badmouthing men we ended up stating that men would only be nice to women when they want sex. So this one girl turns to one of my friends and me and asks: "Hey, wait, is that the reason you two are being nice to me?" Well, being in a fun and badmouthing mood, we totally screwed up the answer. She tried not to let on, but I know she didn't like the answer at all, she rarely laughed the rest of the evening. To be honest, she is hot, but having her just as a friend has so far been more rewarding than my entire last relationship, and currently I don't see any reason for further advancements (which would fail anyway). Sex is definetly not my goal, nor something that passes my mind when seeing her. Now, how do I best explain that to her without sounding like a total bootlicker that's just saying nice things to get her into bed? And without saying something she'll understand as being called unattractive? Is there even a believable way for a guy to say "I consider you attractive, yet I don't want sex with you"? Should I just let it go and try to avoid that topic in the future? greetings, a guy that hopes that neither his friends nor his ex-girlfriend read the tasvideos forums.
Ouch yeah this wasn't handled very well. The good news though is you're probably overthinking this. It's tough to give a general answer here too because a lot of it depends on what kind of person you and your female friend are. If you guys are easy going and know each other well and laugh together a lot about issues like these (sex etc) there's definitely no need to do anything about the situation, it'll blow over in a few days tops. Are you a quiet kinda nerdy socially awkward guy? I'm guessing you probably are (not a criticism or anything at all), which means two things. One, that your "I want to have sex with you" comment really IS kinda creepy and you might want to say something about it, and two that you'll probably won't be able to pull off a good explanation and will seem even more creepy. It's not a very big deal though, don't worry. Here's what you do. First, find out if this thing is still bothering her (if she's a fun extrovert, it won't. If she's a quiet shy prude, it might). You find this out by noticing if she's more quiet than usual and doesn't laugh or smile as much around you any more. If you're in a group setting and she's laughing at whatever, when you say something to her, does her smile kinda fade and she comes off a little standoffish? That kind of thing. My guess is your troubles end right here because it won't bother her. If it does, however, you need to make her realize you're not in love with her or anything, that it's no big deal. You do this by making quick comments in passing about another chick's nice looking ass or hot boobies or whatever you want. Don't force this though, it needs to sound natural and you can't just randomly bring it up in conversation because it will seem weird if you don't always talk about this stuff together. So wait for an opportunity, hopefully you hang out in a group most of the time, you shouldn't be saying this directly to her or anything. That would probably be weird too. Anyway to sum up. Probably no big deal, don't sweat it. If it appears to bother her, compliment other chicks when she's around, or talk about other chicks when she's around. I'm pretty sure she realizes, at least subconsciously, that being a hot chick means she'll have to deal with guys wanting to sex her. She's used to it and as long as she hears an indication she's not the only target of your sexual fantasies, it'll blow over. I know you said you wanted to talk to her and tell her you don't feel like this at all, but I don't think it's a good idea even if it's true. By bringing it up, you're making it a bigger deal that it is and you'll just reintroduce more awkwardness to your friendship. The other problem with it is she probably won't believe you either, because she'll realize it makes no sense for you to overreact like this if you actually don't have a crush on her. If needed, update with more/new details and I'll tell you how to proceed.
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God you must be starved for attention if you have to make a separate thread to promote this horrible useless waste of space and resources just to prove your stupid stupid point.
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First of all Tub what did you answer when she asked? Also how much alcohol was involved (none/some/a lot)?
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Blublu wrote:
(this one is really meant to mock Dasrik's ridiculus question) Dear Fabian, I believe in science and no god, but science clearly contradicts my belief that the entire universe was created from a giant tree and a huge cow. Please tell me how I am right. (this one isn't meant to mock anything) Dear Fabian, What's your favorite Star Trek: TNG episode? If you can't say a single favorite, just say some episode that you liked a lot or found interesting in some other way.
Is TNG the one with Patrick Stewart? I've seen 2 or 3 episodes of it, the one I remember most of was when they turned into Sherlock Holmes and some evil ghost/force/who knows was professor Moriarty and threatened to take over the ship or something. Not a big Star Trek fan as you can tell.
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Ok here's a question I was PMed.
anonymous wrote: Dear Fabian, I've recently met a very nice person who says she's got a fantasy of being tied to the bed with eyes covered. She didn't tell me exactly, but I assume she's gonna be naked. I can probably handle the situation and I know all the basic stuff that I might want to do to please her. I also believe that I can talk with her to find out what she wants. Anyway, I would appreciate if you had some interesting tips or any kind of ideas for this kind of act. It would be nice to be able to surprise her with something special.
I wasn't sure how to answer this at first. Originally I thought I was just going to say fuck it that what the hell do I know about pleasing women. I mean you probably know just as many sweet sex tricks as I do, and as for what a chick wants specifically in that situation.. who knows. Women right? Anyway the lame but true answer is to do what you suggest, ask her. You've probably had sex fifteen hundred times already so that shouldn't be too awkward :) Thing is, what you like in bed is just way too individual to give a general answer to, and like I said you already know the general answers I could give you. Be more dominant than you usually are though, kinda obvious too I guess but you might as well overdo it a little, even for this situation. I was going to come up with some half joking half serious suggestion for what to do do surprise her, but I can't even think of anything. I suck. Good luck and please give me her phone number when you're done.
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kwinse wrote:
Dear Fabian, Have you considered the future for Raiscan's question? Signed, The Melancholy Knight
Well I did and then I dismissed it on account on it being kinda lame. I felt the answered needed to be something specific. Otherwise sure "I'd like to see what it's like in the future lol duh obv!!"
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Raiscan wrote:
Dear Fabian, If you could visit any point in time, where would you go and why? Don't worry, you will not cause any paradoxes and you can return to the present at any time you wish. I'm asking both you and Bisqwit as I feel it should provide interesting results.
Hm pretty tough question. I can't really think of any historic event I would really want to see/experience because of its greatness or whatever. I've been sitting here for like 5 minutes trying to come up with something, and just.. nope. It's got to be something in the last 100 or so years, because everything up until then has kind of sucked. I guess it would be something pretty insignificant. Like maybe a cool sporting event, except I'm not that into sports and I can't think of anything really cool I would have wanted to see. Definitely not anything horrible (like the Titanic sinking, WWII, Spanish inquisition type stuff). Maybe an early Elton John concert, I bet that would be super awesome and not at all what you are looking for but I can't think of anything of more significance so.
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Boco wrote:
Dear Fabian, What is your favorite compass direction? Please don't think about it too hard in terms of what is actualy in each direction in the world, think more along the lines of the cultural associations each direction has (which I guess would be different for you and me because we are on different continents).
We can eliminate south right away. Kentucky and Alabama etc, yuck. Next to go is east, because that makes me think of Eastern Europe, like the old Soviet Union and Yugoslavia and those countries. They kinda suck too. So it's between north and west. I don't know what I associate with north, nothing special I guess. West wins out though for two reasons. One, I live in western (or northern. hm) Europe, which rocks. Two, Go West with Pet Shop Boys.
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Dasrik wrote:
Dear Fabian, I'm an atheist who believes in God. Can you work out this apparent contradiction, other than realizing I've watched "The Usual Suspects" and/or "Inherit the Wind" too many times? Thanks for your time. :)
Unless you're trying out some stupid technicality in the definition of atheist (like how a theist will sometimes go "atheism requires just as much faith as theism so it's on you guys to provide the burden of proof not us!"), then no I can't. Also I've never seen either of the films so your point is mostly lost on me I'm afraid :)
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mmbossman wrote:
Just stumbled across this topic again, but I wonder how likely it is that some of these movies will get obsoleted. The 3 track and field movies and the Temco Super Bowl movie were published back when publication was a little less, shall we say, formal then it is now, and those movies today probably would become gruefood (none of them has an average rating above 5). So with that said, is there any chance of publication even if someone decides to try their hand? I'm certainly not trying to dissuade anyone from trying, it seems to me that they were just poor game choices to begin with. Anyone have ideas on how new movies for these two games could reach publishability?
If a game has been published, there's no chance of an improvement being rejected just because the game sucks. I think that's a 100% official judge statement. Case in point being Jaws, as I recall there was a pretty lively discussion when that one was submitted and accepted.
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mmbossman wrote:
Do you not want to answer questions anymore, or just don't want to have to deal with stupid questions? To avoid this post being a stupid question, what is your opinion on being agnostic? Coming from a very scientific (and as far as I know, atheist) father, and a pretty religious (Christian) mother, I truly think there is a God or Ultimate Being, or something along those lines. But for me to proclaim that I have it all figured out is simply pompous and vain in nature. Considering there has already been a lot of conversation about theology, I figured this was somewhat of a middle ground that hadn't been covered. Thoughts?
What I meant was please don't fire up huge discussions in here, if you think a particular topic is really interesting feel free to move it to a separate thread etc. Also a little bit about the extra stupid questions yeah. I can do without retarded Colbert references for example, that guy has been moved to my mental ignore list for now. Being agnostic is very reasonable. In fact, it's really the only reasonable thing, but I think making that distinction (I can't be 100.00000% sure there is no god so if I said I was sure I'd be lying and would be stupid bla bla bla) is just kinda semantic bullshit which I'm not a big fan of. But yeah on a more strict or philosophical level, agnosticism is really the only thing that makes sense. For me, one of the things I have a very hard time accepting when discussing theology with theists is their die hard belief where they completely refuse to acknowledge any other possibility than that their own very specific religion is exactly 100% likely to be true. Most smart theists (to be honest I've only come across like 3 or 4 of these ever, which says something about theists but also something about me so no reason to get all riled up) leave a door open for other possibilities, thankfully. Makes it a lot easier for me to accept their position. The vanity and pomposity you mention is indeed present in most theists' minds in my experience. I might not be much better here though, but I try to be respectful at least when discussing it with people I respect.
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That screenshot is pretty good stuff :) Watched something like 95k frames until it desynched. Felt kinda boring since I didn't understand much. Voting yes, will probably watch the rest when avi arrives.
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Everyone, Please stop posting crap in here damn it.
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JXQ wrote:
Dear Fabian, Say someone else had made an Ask thread before you. Who would you have most preferred it to be? What would you have asked them? Your boyfriend(gay), JXQ
To be honest I can't think of any Ask thread I'd really care about. The most well suited would probably be Bisqwit, with him being site administrator and everything, and we all saw how that one turned out :) Which is not to say your thread sucked Bisqwit, obviously people enjoyed it, it didn't interest me in any way though. Apart from myself the only person I think could do a good Ask thread would be you. Coincidence huh(gay)? I bet nitsuja's would enjoy some brief popularity too, with him being idolized by 80% of this forum and everything.
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Zurreco wrote:
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Fabian, the Duriel segment of my Diablo 2 speedrun is giving me a hard time. Got any pointers for me?
Nevermind. You took forever and I worked out the kinks on my own. Thanks for nothing, jerk >:|
You're stuck on that segment for like 9 months (right? like November last year?), you post about it here and within a day you've figured it out? Sweet beans, I'd love to watch it, I've been looking forward to more Diablo 2 speedruns. Hope your progress from now on is quicker :) Also I don't have many pointers. I haven't played a lot of Diablo 2.
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HHS wrote:
Why would you vote for Vänsterpartiet? They want: - 6 hour limit on workdays, meaning greater inefficiences in production, causing mass unemployment as companies move operations abroad. - Increase government control over landlords and private businesses. Vänsterpartiet wants to seize the property of anyone who do not rent out to, or hire people at the government's discretion. At present, they can only be fined. - To reduce the already ridiculous jail sentences and let criminals run loose - To send precious women into war and thereby reduce the size of the next generation of Swedes dramatically after a war - To encourage graffiti and vandalism - To help voter groups that depend the most on the government (non-productive citizens), to increase their own power over the people.
1. Your attempt to provoke me into a political debate after I just wrote "I'm not interested in or know a lot about politics" tells me you're probably an idiot. 2. Your obvious bias when it comes to the stuff you listed and your apparent failure to see upsides to those things tells me you're probably an idiot. Anyway didn't mean to come off this harsh. If you want people to take you seriously though you definitely need to understand both the good things and the bad things, both for the political ideas you're trying to push and the ideas you want to convince others to reject. A good place to start when trying to figure this stuff out is to go "ok so this idea X sucks for me because it means bla bla bla, but who might it not suck for, and why? Would anyone benefit from this suggestion?" Remember, while it's valid to vote for selfish reasons, if you do, you can't fault others for voting for THEIR selfish reasons. Once you've got this far, you can try building solid arguments for why you feel the upsides of "your" suggestion" outweighs the downsides compared to "their" suggestion. Solid arguments is tough though, so don't expect too much. Also keep in mind that if the issue is complicated in any kind of way, like pretty much every political question, ordinary people such as you and I probably won't have the necessary knowledge to be able to evaluate these two opposing ideas. This is why politics is incredibly tough to discuss in a meaningful way, as it almost every time will boil down to two people trying to misdirect each other with meaningless arguments, and it's all for selfish reasons. This is as true for top politicians as it is for us regular folk.
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