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Fifthing [3235] SNES Soul Blazer by LeHulk in 1:29:33.72 Easily one of the most entertaining runs of the year for me, especially for an underdog game that doesn't usually lend itself well to entertainment.
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warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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Voting Yes because
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Nthing Challenger and RobynS, for sure. Even if I'm completely alone on this, I have to nominate DrD2k9, almost entirely because of one single post. Emphasis is mine:
DrD2k9 wrote:
I really respect the comments and philosophical questions raised by ais523. I also appreciate that he/she is willing to share his/her perspective. If this submission serves no purpose but to have drawn out these questions/comments/concerns about the deeper philosophical positions on TASing games, then I feel that it was a worthwhile submission regardless of the ultimate decision on the video. That said, I have a minor issue with your suggestion that TAS videos have to somehow exhibit or exploit things about a game that the developers didn't want or didn't expect. Some of us newer (and likely some older) players aren't as experienced with computers and/or programming as others in the community may be; yet we still have an interest in this hobby. As an example, I'm in healthcare and haven't deeply studied software and computers. I just enjoy video games and enjoy the challenge of TASing. It's essentially a puzzle to me. For those of us who don't understand the various intricacies of the technology or aren't versed in coding, simply completing a game as absolutely fast as we find possible using TAS techniques is exciting enough of an accomplishment even if nothing was attained outside of the developers' intents. Even if/when my TAS attempts are rejected by the community, I still feel a sense of accomplishment in something I approach as a hobby, because I've still done something I would never have been able to achieve while playing a game normally. I'm simply suggesting that, as a community, we guard against potentially alienating current or future members by requiring that submissions perform something beyond developers intent. Again I appreciate that ais523 shared his/her thoughts. It's communication than strengthens what we do. Just look at how many submissions have resulted from collaboration for proof.
Absolute perfection. Despite a fairly high number of game/goal choice rejections and mostly ignored Vault publications, I absolutely think he deserves the award because of this sort of mentality: TASing should be about having fun, getting better, learning more about the craft, doing what you want, and taking everything in stride regardless of how positive or negative the feedback is. Staying motivated even in the face of rejections and negative backlash, continuing to do what you want in the face of a community that's constantly forcing you to produce what they want to see, keeping a positive outlook on everything no matter what... And a high work rate doesn't hurt, either, especially considering that both his game and goal choices are so barely explored that I'm surprised he's managed so many high tech quality runs in such a short amount of time while needing to do all the research and optimization by himself. Challenger and RobynS also fit this mold really well, and I'm just super extra glad this whole trio exists on the site right now, keeping us supplied with fresh, excellent runs of games that would not get the time of day otherwise. I've always felt the site should be a repository for the fastest and best TASes of anything, not just a dick measuring contest for how fast you can make a popular Nintendo character move, and without these three we would have a lot less of the former variety and a lot more of the latter "get the yardstick, I saved 3 frames".
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Alyosha RobynS fcxiaopengyou All three because of output, variety, and quality.
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TMK. As far as I can remember, Tyler Kehne was the mastermind behind the SM64 moat skip, and to me that's a massive accomplishment worthy of some sort of accolade.
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Otwald wrote:
Chapter 1
I, uh, appreciate the signal boost, but this is definitely not the right video.
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Nach wrote:
I was not referring to you. Various people in the thread resorted to calling grassini names, and they should not.
You were quoting me and directly addressing that quote when you said that. It's a wee bit difficult for me not to assume that you were not referring to me. That's not even the issue at hand, though.
Nach wrote:
I don't think those are personal attacks either. However complaining about Mothrayas' moderating when all he asked was people to not do name calling is uncalled for.
He asked me specifically to not do any name calling, despite me using a single inoffensive term while other people were more off-base with their remarks. That kind of biased behavior is precisely what's uncalled for. I don't mind being moderated, I know damn well what I do wrong and I'm willing to accept the consequences, but I do mind if I'm the only one being moderated in a situation where I'm not the only one who is in the wrong. This is not the first time this has happened in my time on this site. In fact, I would go as far as to say the number of times it's happened is approaching double digits by now. Mothrayas has been far more impartial since my statements and the statements of others, so I have nothing to complain about anymore. I think his moderation is absolutely fine, now. Yours, on the other hand...
Nach wrote:
I don't see a single post of his where he mentions so and so on TASVideos is such and such. You don't like what he's saying. I don't like what he's saying. So what? If you find yourself being attacked by what he's saying (but it cannot be personally, because he hasn't mentioned you by name in any of it), then you're intentionally deciding to place yourself within whatever ridiculous construct he's framing.
Nach wrote:
He has called *you* none of those things. If you find remarks like "the hypocritical left..." to be personally referring to you, the problem is with you who are deciding to label yourself as whoever the "the hypocritical left" are. If you believe you are not a hypocritical person, then you cannot be part of "the hypocritical left".
Okay, let's try this on for size: I think the administration of this site is awful. Oh, no, you can't be offended by that statement, because I didn't call YOU awful. I just called the administration of this site awful. If you're offended, then you're intentionally placing yourself in that group, and you're in the wrong for doing so, because what I just said wasn't a personal attack according to you. Pay no mind to the fact that you are explicitly a part of this group, and pay no mind to the fact that my statement is just a sweeping generalization of the entire site administration, which is guaranteed to include you. It's still not a personal attack against you, so you shouldn't be offended by it. Do you see where I'm coming from, now? Is there really any difference between attacking someone personally and attacking a group that said person belongs to? No, there isn't. By your logic, someone could come in here and say "White people deserve to die" and no one is allowed to be offended by it because it's not a personal attack. It only targets well over half of our demographic, it's nothing personal! The fact that his comments are targeting the entire "lefty liberal" population means that I would have to change the entirety of my political ideals in order to not classify myself as part of the demographic he's insulting.
Nach wrote:
That's a religious mindset, to find great offense in someone disliking what you like. Instead of "not taking kindly" because you "supported", instead disprove so called trafficking ring. Here, I'll do it for you: http://www.snopes.com/pizzagate-conspiracy/
So it took all of 10 seconds to Google that link, one of the many times Pizzagate has been completely disproven, et cetera, et cetera. Why is it wrong for me or anyone else to think it's a completely futile effort to argue with someone who still vehemently believes it? The only reason I think anyone would even continue to mention it after all this time is either provocation or utter idiocy, and I'm choosing to take the high road by assuming it's provocation. This should be picked up by the moderation staff and dealt with accordingly. Moth said it himself earlier: grassini's statements are "confrontational" and more or less directed at people as opposed to ideas. If you want this thread to be about topics VS topics, then you need to stop EVERYONE trying to attack ANYONE, regardless of who they are or whether or not they're participating in the thread. And it's not about him "disliking what I like". He's intentionally spreading and defending misinformation. If someone had come in here and fabricated a story that Trump raped and murdered a child or something just as ridiculous, I would be just as appalled and offended by that spreading of misinformation. It doesn't matter who it's targeting or whether or not I agree with the targeted person. Ridiculous statements like that should not be tolerated, especially ones that are so easily disproven.
Nach wrote:
I do not know why you find it heavy handed to ask people to be civil to one another. People should be civil to one another.
Because you're not asking EVERYONE to be civil. If you were asking EVERYONE to be civil, I would not be complaining, but literally your only responses in this thread so far have been toward me, despite you saying the contrary earlier. The heavy-handed part of it is that in your opinion, out of everyone in this thread, I am apparently the only one who is acting out of line. I am the one who has received the brunt of the warnings so far when all I had done is implied that someone may be trying to get a rise out of me. You saw it as a much better use of your time to systematically deconstruct and combat my posts defending myself as opposed to, oh I don't know, telling grassini to tone down on his aggressive remarks and provocations, which you yourself admitted several times were "ridiculous" and "outrageous", yet at no point did you ever make a move to tell him to cut it out. By doing this, you're telling him his behavior is perfectly acceptable, which is basically ensuring that the thread is going to keep spiraling further and further downward, deeper and deeper into the personal attacks you're apparently working so hard to prevent.
Nach wrote:
Please do not confuse not moderating ridiculous non-personal remarks with unfair moderation.
Please moderate those ridiculous remarks and prove that it is fair moderation, then. I should not feel like the moderation staff is personally targeting and attacking me.
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Nach wrote:
I think you're looking too much for an affront just because you are disagreeing with someone. As Mothrayas said, please stick to debating the various points, not attacking people, moderators or otherwise.
I've said nothing but "grassini is being more aggressive than anyone else", "I think Warp is intentionally provoking me" and "I think Mothrayas' moderation may be influenced by bias." I don't understand how any of these can be construed as personal attacks, especially when compared to everything grassini has said so far. All I'm saying is that if you're going to punish me for "personal attacks", you have to punish him in turn for those actual personal attacks. I don't exactly take kindly to being called paranoid, aggressive, and a hypocrite, and I really don't take kindly to him insinuating that the candidate I supported runs a child sex trafficking ring. But over everything else, I don't take kindly to their actions being defended and mine being moderated. Like I said, if such heavy-handed moderation is going to be used, it has to be equally applied to both parties. Otherwise you may as well just re-name this thread to "The Trump Appreciation Safe Space and Meme Zone (No Paranoid Hypocrite Liberals Allowed)" so no one else mistakes this place for having fair moderation.
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warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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There's disagreeing with something and then there's beating people over the head with your disagreement until they agree just to shut you up. Take a moment to reflect on your actions and your experiences with the site and categorize yourself accordingly.
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warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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Mothrayas wrote:
You can criticize someone's discourse without calling them names. Just focus on the discourse, and ignore whatever isn't. If the discourse itself is worthless, then you can make that clear without going on about the poster.
Dude, I know you're pro-Trump and all, but even you have to realize that grassini's the most aggressive personal attacker in the thread right now. Every single post he's made has been nothing but liberal-bashing provocation, and the fact that you're not even bothering to address him with this heavy-handed moderation shows your bias. If you're going to moderate this thread, do it fairly. Don't just pick on the side you disagree with.
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warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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Warp wrote:
So in other words some good old investigative journalism was done, and the truth was revealed to the public. Is that bad, somehow?
"Don't feed the trolls, Samsara" isn't supposed to be an open invitation for all of them to come out of the woodwork.
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You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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grassini wrote:
(pro-trump picture)
Cool, good one, nice meme. Also, completely not at all how anyone rational thinks. Anybody with half a brain* knows that the election wasn't directly hacked by anyone, Russian or otherwise. The real issue is that it has been proven that the Democrats were hacked, which lead to leaked information that completely damned Hillary Clinton, and someone could easily argue that these leaks persuaded a lot of voters over to Trump's side. *"anyone with half a brain" is still only about 25% of Americans That someone is not going to be me, because arguing with anyone who even slightly supports Trump would be like bashing my head into a brick wall until I cracked my skull open, but I do firmly believe that these leaks were basically the final nails in the coffin for Clinton.
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warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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feos wrote:
Desyncs are usually not the fault of tastudio, but of the core.
If it helps, I've gotten a few desyncs across multiple cores (it's happened on Genesis, NES, and SNES so far), and as far as I can tell it's specific to TAStudio and how it handles greenzone. I don't have a proper example, sadly, but I can try to describe it. I'll do a section and jump back to where I started, play everything through and it works just fine, but if I replay the movie from the beginning (or anywhere outside the original greenzone) it desyncs. Going back to the original greenzone will load in the "correct" version and it will play normally. It's rare and inconsistent (it only happened maybe 3 times across all of working on Gunstar Heroes and maybe once per movie before that, if at all), I don't know what causes it to happen, and I've only really dealt with it by watching the run from the beginning after each TASing session in order to make sure everything syncs, but it's happened across so many cores that I'm almost positive it has to do with TAStudio.
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You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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I'm basically at wit's end with hard drives: I had a WD external drive that basically died within a year of buying it, where literally the only way I was able to interact with it was to unplug it, plug it in to a different computer, then unplug it from that computer and back into the first one. My current PC shipped with a Toshiba internal drive that died literally less than 3 months after getting it, which I replaced with a Seagate that thankfully lasted a little over a year before dying. Basically, do some research and find which drives have the lowest failure rates: HGST seems to be the best choice in terms of reliability, it's what I went with to replace that Seagate, but that was only at the beginning of the month so I can't really vouch for how reliable it is yet. You should be able to find a recovery specialist somewhere if you're willing to shell out a ton of money for it, I've generally had bad luck with recovery software so I wouldn't recommend going that route unless you find something you're confident with.
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warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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Arcree2 wrote:
I really don't understand. 8/0/0 can't be Vault, this 100%.
Lack of interest is also a factor in Vault tiering, even if a run gets 100% Yes votes. This got less than one vote a day over 10 days, despite being a short-ish movie done by a site admin that had an encode immediately available upon submission. That's pretty telling in terms of the site not having much interest over it, not to mention what I already wrote about the thread feedback being particularly weak as well. Trust me, there have been plenty of laughable mistiers recently. This one was pretty sound, in my opinion.
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There isn't a whole lot of overly positive feedback: "More entertaining than the movie, but that's not saying much", "as usual, a Yes", et cetera. Even 8 Yes votes is low when there's been over a week since submission, meaning the general audience isn't interested in the run. Vault makes sense.
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You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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I can't help too much, but some of the katakana transliteration is fairly straightforward. The effect made it hard to read, but this just transliterates to "Cutter Boomerang". カッター ブーパラン kattaa buumeran This is just onomatopoeia for a bomb ticking down and then exploding, with the smaller text below being the echo effect. γƒ’γƒ₯ルルルル hyururururu ドカーン dokaan Different translators are giving me different results for the top line (Google Translate says "I am finished" while Rikaikun says something more like "I have arrived"). Translation software is iffy, though, so you shouldn't take either of these as fact. The huge bit in red just transliterates to "Hand Power", though, followed by a desu, which is just desu. Bottom line is actual Japanese and is thus entirely out of my field of knowledge. Why am I even in this section of the site? きてます kitemasu ハンドパワー handopawaa Given a bit more time, I can write everything out for machine translation at the very least, but you'd be better off waiting for someone who actually knows what they're talking about.
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You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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I would recommend cancelling and redoing the submission using the advice you've received. You wouldn't want a rejected movie on your record so early on. The best advice I can give is to just try as many things as you possibly can, don't just take the first result you get. Use frame advance, keep trying to do things faster, save and load state frequently, and only present a new submission when you are absolutely sure there is no more time to be saved. It may take doing and redoing the movie several times until you reach that result, but that's just what TASing is.
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You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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Oh God, this game. This nightmare. I'll have to watch ASAP, I need to see this game destroyed.
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Masterjun wrote:
Give reasons why the site should go through the trouble of setting up and managing a Discord server.
As far as I can tell, the only effort required in setting up a Discord server would be reprogramming TVA as a Discord bot. Actually setting up the server wouldn't be any trouble at all, I don't think. Asking if the site "needs" a Discord server is a loaded question. The discussion has to be about which one is better, because the discussion is about possibly migrating from one to the other. It makes no sense to ask why the site needs a Discord server, because it doesn't. There's IRC, nothing else is strictly needed, but that shouldn't be used as an excuse to not explore any alternatives. I don't personally care much for Discord at the moment (though all the critical features I want are in active development), but I can still see a lot of good and not a lot of bad in setting up a server:
    It'd probably be easier to manage than IRC, or at least moderation would be more straightforward than "wait until a situation escalates, give yourself Op, attempt to calm the situation, fail, don't do anything anyway". If people are abandoning IRC left and right in favor of Discord, then maybe an official site server would attract more people, specifically active people that can keep conversations going constantly as opposed to having 18 hours of silence, followed by a 3 hour discussion about Linux or Super Metroid, followed by 24 hours of silence. There wouldn't be any issues with netsplits, or page after page of nothing but joins/parts, cutting down on spam and other useless content. Mobile and web access would be a lot easier for people away from their home computers. Setting up team projects would be a lot more convenient, since everyone's going to use Discord anyway and tabbing back and forth between the team project on Discord and the main chat on IRC sounds like a major hassle.
Someone more familiar with Discord would have to explain any other benefits it has over IRC.
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There's really no point to rating movies anymore. It's a broken and nebulous system that people are clearly abusing for personal gain and I doubt it's ever going to be properly fixed.
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Canvas Curses loses its wow factor fairly quickly in my opinion. The main glitch makes it far more entertaining than a run without it would be, but it removes a lot of the variety that would have come from actually needing to deal with each stage.
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You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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Post in the Anime thread and moozooh will show back up for a couple of days.
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MUGG wrote:
Basicly, lessons 1) If you try to play with the kindergarten children in the same way you observe from others, you get fucked. (Basicly what went down on September 28th) 2) If you try bonding with parents, you get fucked. 3) Anyone else can play with the children. But if you do it, see 1) 4) Anyone else can bond with the parents. But if you do it, see 2) 5) If you try to contact old good acquaintances, they don't want to hear a thing from you or they outright ignore you. 6) It is safe to assume that friends you make tomorrow will give you the cold shoulder the day after tomorrow.
Hey, welcome to how the world works. Here's some fun bits of crushing reality that I can at least spin into proper advice. 1) If people hate you, you will get called out for absolutely everything you do, even if you do everything right. People will go as far as to lie in order to make you look worse. 2) Bonding with people who hate you is impossible, regardless of whether or not you're working with them, for them, or under them. They will actively find ways to destroy you and stop at nothing until you are indeed destroyed. 3) and 4) People who hate you will always prefer other people who hate you, and in a case where everyone hates you, it's pretty fucking clear that said other people are going to be the ones that get away with everything. Follow their example all you want, it's not going to work. These people can also get away scot-free if they fuck you over, even if they're the ones ultimately doing the shittiest things possible in that situation. The world is basically a hivemind against you, and if you don't join the hivemind then you're just going to have a hell of a time. 5) and 6) Yes, even your "friends" are corrupted easily, even people who respected you at one point will lose all respect if the majority is against you. Believing you've befriended someone right after meeting them is the first mistake you make in a future failed friendship, because the reality is that everyone is selfish and will dump you when they're completely sure you serve no beneficial purpose to them. This always happens much sooner than you expect, even if you're expecting it in the first place. What I'm trying to get at is this: Drop the kindergarten stuff and move on. It's clearly a toxic environment that isn't going to welcome you back with open arms. They're shitty people from what you've been describing, and even if there are some nice memories, it's going to be so much better in the long run to step back. You'll look back on it in a year and know you made the right decision. Wanting to stick around because you like the kids is like joining the fucking military because your friends are in it. You may be around friends but the rest of it is going to be nothing but pain and misery. I'll be honest, here: This is pretty much nothing but an abusive relationship allegory at this point, and I'm saying this as someone who's been through an abusive relationship. They fucked up and you're blaming yourself for it. It's ultimately a manipulative act on their part that does nothing but make you feel worse and make them feel justified in their fucking atrocious behavior. You can't play into that trap, you can't focus on all the positives, you can't focus on how nice everything and everyone seemed at first. You have to be selfish here. You have to remind yourself how they wronged you. Pick yourself up, burn those bridges, step the hell away from that toxic environment and look for better people. This is the only reason I'm still alive right now. I could have chosen to remember all the good things that happened between me and my ex, but what would that have done for me? Oh, I know, it would have fucking destroyed my already fragile ego. Those memories would have told me nothing but "Look at all this wonderful stuff that YOU FUCKED UP YOURSELF, YOU FUCK-UP!" So I stopped doing that. I remembered the constant arguments, I remembered every time she told me she was only with me because she thought I'd kill myself if she left me, I remembered the actual death threats sent back and forth, all the times she told me I was faking depression for sympathy, every time she called me a useless sack of shit that she was embarrassed to be seen with... And I could finally just... hate her and everything about her. I completely stopped wanting to associate with that manipulative bitch who was really just using me in order to make herself look better in comparison. I actually started thinking more positively about myself in exchange. I felt freed, I felt like I was the one being wronged for once in my life. It was honestly a life-changing experience to realize that, hey, sometimes it's absolutely okay to be a selfish prick who can't blame themself for anything. As long as you're smart about it, you can be a wonderful, helpful, selfless person who's willing to make some personal sacrifices in order to accomplish their goals, while still primarily looking out for yourself and being able to recover easily once everything inevitably falls apart around you in this fucking dumpster fire of a world. At no point in your life should you ever have to feel like you need to change yourself to fit in with a group of people. Any time you feel like you need to actively change your personality or your ethics for a group of "friends", just do yourself a favor and leave them before they leave you. Keep looking until you find a group of friends who will accept you for who you are, because they're absolutely out there. Nobody's alone in the world. Not you, not me, not anyone else on or outside this site. Some people band together because they all like the same anime, some people band together because they're all part of a niche community, some people band together because they all hate one specific person. Hell, some people band together because they're just in the same room at the same time. Point is, you'll find where you belong as long as you keep searching for it. Just to summarize and wrap everything up, though: This kindergarten isn't where you belong. Fuck 'em. Channel out all the good memories and keep the hate. Thrive on it. Always blame them and never blame yourself for what happened, because it's not even remotely your fault. There's always going to be people who understand and support you... Like here, for instance. And, yeah. Just keep powering through. Stay strong. Each new day is progress, even if it doesn't feel like anything happened. The most important thing is living long enough to tell the world you're okay, and then living long after that as well.
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warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.
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Warp wrote:
The current official answer seems to be "this is just how it is, end of discussion", which doesn't feel quite satisfactory, to me at least.
I figured you'd be used to that by now, seeing as "This is just how it is, end of discussion" is how the site handles 95% of the complaints that pop up.
TASvideos Admin and acting Senior Judge πŸ’™ | Cohost
warmCabin wrote:
You shouldn't need a degree in computer science to get into this hobby.